Be the Magnet
When we talk about being a magnet for our desires, we are talking about attracting our desires to us. But we tend to forget that a magnet both attracts and repels.
We can’t truly be magnetic in life if we are scared of repelling the things that are not for us. Whether we’re trying to attract in the right relationship, the right community or more career opportunities and money, we need to be willing to filter out the things that are not in alignment with what we really want and deserve in order to attract what we do want and deserve.
There are two ways to do this: one is by saying no to anything which is not a match for our desire and the other is by energetically repelling it.
‘Repel’ sounds like a strong and jarring word, but it simply means to to drive away something unwanted or to prevent it entering. Let’s consider how that might look in our lives:
In the context of dating, if we want to fall in love and be in a committed relationship then we want to repel people who are looking to play games and waste our time.
In the context of work, if we want a job where we will be respected and treated fairly then we want to repel employers who are going to take advantage of us.
If we have a business and we are wanting to attract in more money then we want to repel customers or clients who are going to be difficult and drain our time and energy.
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So how do we ensure that we are energetically repelling the things that we don’t want?
Strong boundaries are a must. We need to be clear in what we will and won’t entertain. But I want to touch upon something else which I think can be overlooked. We all have a brilliant, inbuilt filtering system that we can activate to become more magnetic - and that is our authenticity. When we are being truly authentic - when we are not trying to be liked, accepted, approved of or desired - we tend to naturally repel the people or things that are not right for us.
Authenticity is about owning who you are and what you want completely. It’s not something you have to try to be. Your authenticity is your natural expression or essence.
As a child you embody your authenticity fully. But then there is a rupture. Your natural expression is misunderstood or unappreciated, whether by your mother, father, classmates, a teacher etc. You interpret their response to you as meaning you are too much, not enough, too weird, too sensitive or whatever else, and you carry this understanding into your adult relationships.
You feel like you can’t unashamedly say that you want a relationship when dating because you will be perceived as too high maintenance and needy…
You feel like you can’t embody your full beauty or sensuality because you will attract jealously…
You feel like you can’t ask for a raise or increase the price of your work because you will be perceived as entitled and selfish…
You feel like you can’t relax and speak freely with someone you think is cooler or more ‘high status’ than you because they will look down on you…
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Because you’re not fully owning who you are and what you want, you’re going to find that what is showing up in your life - the kind of people, dynamics and patterns - leave you feeling unfulfilled and perhaps disempowered. So, you have to BE THE MAGNET.
You have to start giving yourself permission to show up exactly as you are. Not trying to convince or win anyone over, but simply being; it is more than enough.
You have to be real with yourself about what you want. No wishy-washiness or minimising your desires to make them more palatable to those around you when you know what you truly want.
Lastly, you have to accept that you have no control over how others respond to your authentic expression. The right people are going to be irresistibly drawn to it. The wrong people will potentially be triggered, scared off by it or simply not interested.
It is the perfect filtering system that nature has given us, let’s get back in tune with it.
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—Kat